Damage Done

After spending nearly all of my time & energy, over the last 12 years, making every decision based on what is best for my children, it absolutely floors me when others can’t understand what that means.

My ex-husband decided to have a sit down with our boys over Christmas break. He told them about how he cries every time they leave & “wouldn’t it be great if you could live here half the time instead of just weekends?”  When he told me about their conversation I was floored! We do not discuss changes that we want to make to the parenting plan with the children included in that parenting plan unless/until both parents have already decided to make those changes.  My children are both depressed, my 8 year old is borderline suicidal!  The stress & pressure that this sort of behavior puts on children is near abusive!  The X says that he honestly thinks that it is best for the boys.  I tried to get him to understand that there is a big difference between what feels good to our achy, “I miss my kids” hearts & what is actually in the kids’ best interest.  Selfish people shouldn’t breed, but then I’m the dummy who made it possible for him eh?

An interview with my children…

I did this interview with my boys Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Ryan was almost 11, & Jacob was 7 1/2

Interviews with your kids…

1. What is something mom always says to you?
R:Goodnight
J: I love you

2. What makes mom happy?
R: Music
J: making us happy sometimes does

3. What makes mom sad?
R: When we don’t listen
J: When we say mean things to her

4. How does your mom make you laugh?
R: I don’t think I’ve ever laughed when you did anything
J: Sometimes when your dancing you do funny dances sometimes

5. What was your mom like as a child?
R: Being pushed around by Aunt Tiffany
J: singing & at school you kicked boys in the nuts, remember they called you & your friend Jamey “the nutcrackers”? (I seriously tell the kids too many stories from my youth!)

6. How old is your mom?
R: 30
J: 32

7. How tall is your mom?
R:5’2″
J: probably 31 inches taller than Ryan, cause I think he comes up to your boobs

8. What is her favorite thing to do?
R: Listen to music
J:singing or like getting to read those Twilight books

9. What does your mom do when you’re not around?
R:Listen to music or be on the computer
J: probably on the computer or singing or your um you work?

10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
R:singing
J: being the best reader or the best singer

11. What is your mom really good at?
R: singing
J:singing or reading

12. What is your mom not very good at?l
R: Not very good at dancing, sometimes you scare me (this from the boy who thinks the oompa loompas are soo cool!)
J: not very good at playing video games

13. What does your mom do for her job?
R:works at the Kalispell Grand Hotel
J: goes to a hotel & sometimes goes to a school

14. What is your mom’s favorite food?
R:Chicken Tortilla soup
J: kiwis, cherries, & beets

15. What makes your mom proud of you?
R: when we clean our rooms
J: when we get to a different reading level

16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
R: Mary Jane Watson
J: Pepper Potts, cause you’re in love with Tony Stark & then you could make out with him

17. What do you and your mom do together?
R: play board games
J: we like to watch movies & read

18. How are you and your mom the same?
R: We’re related
J: we both like Wii sports

19. How are you and your mom different?
R:different gender
J: I like to play legos & you don’t like to as much

20. How do you know your mom loves you?
R: because you’re my mom
J: everyday & at bedtime you tuck us in & give us hugs & kisses even when we don’t want them

21. Where is your mom’s favorite place to go?
R: Friends’ houses
J: If you still had a choir it would be choir